There is an age old stereotype that portrays single mothers as being unhappy, financially unstable despite working multiple jobs, and just being painted in a negative light overall. But its 2018, and the times are changing. Single mothers are no longer struggling— in fact many are more successful than their married counterparts. This is because nowadays more women are choosing to focus on their careers instead of marrying and starting a family right after college, among other things.
Women. Decades ago, women were expected to get married, have kids, and become stay-at-home wives to their successful husbands. But luckily, we no longer live in the 1950s, and women are now fighting for equal pay, running for office, and choosing to have kids not just later in life, but without a partner.
Independent. Society in general has also shifted the way they see single, unmarried women. Long gone are the days of pitying independent women, and instead we are now encouraging women to follow their dreams and settle into their careers before starting a family.
Survey. According to a survey done by the Pew Research Center, 46 percent of adults believe that “Society is better off if people make marriage and having children a priority.” On the other hand, 50 percent of people said “Society is just as well off if people have priorities other than marriage and children,” reports Your Tango.
Donor. The age women are choosing to have children has also increased, with many women waiting until 26 or older. Not only that, but many women are skipping the search for their Prince Charming to have kids, and instead going the route of a sperm donor.
Single moms. According to Your Tango, more and more women between the ages of 35-39 are choosing to be single moms. In turn, new research has found that children born to older single mothers have the same chances of success as those born to married couples.
Less problems. Children born to single mothers are also less likely to have behavioral problems, are taller, and were smarter. These results come from a study done in 2016 based on 1.5 million men and women in Sweden, reports Time.
Better relationship. In another study, Professor Susan Golombok found that it didn’t matter how many parents a child grew up with when it came to their happiness. On the contrary, single mothers tended to have a better relationship with their children than married mothers did.
Positive. “Although mothers from both types of family showed positive relationships with their children, the differences that were identified between the single and the married mothers indicated greater joy among the single mothers and less anger towards their children, accompanied by a perception of their children as less clingy,” said Golombok, as reported by the Independent UK.
Healthier. There is a common misconception that in order to be happy, you need to be in a happy relationships. Again, further studies testing this theory have proved otherwise, even pointing out that people who are single may even be healthier than married people.
Bad habits. “With just one exception, every significant finding favored the women who either stayed single instead of marrying, or who got divorced instead of staying married. For example, the women who married gained more weight and drank more than those who stayed single,” reports CNN.
Attention. Overall, children to single mothers may be in a better position to thrive as all of their mother’s attention goes solely to them. A study published in the Journal of Happiness discovered that single mothers also became significantly more happy after having kids.
Motherhood. “Our ﬁndings illustrate that children are a focal point in an unmarried woman’s life, and that many important life decisions are made more responsibly for the sake of the child. Motherhood empowers single mothers, increases their sense of responsibility, and allows them to escape pathological environments,” said the researchers, as reported by the Huffington Post.
Freedom. Researchers interviewed one 27-year-old single mother who said that for her, her decision to keep her baby allowed her freedom from an abusive relationship. Had it not been for her child, she may have never gotten out of it.
Push. “The man I used to be with, he had problems with alcohol and drugs. It was the reason why I left him. I didn’t think only about myself—but about the child, too. I had to start thinking… I had been hesitating before, I had wanted to leave him, but you know… love is blind. And it could be said that [my daughter] simply pushed me to do it,” said the woman, as reported by the Huffington Post.