Sex is an important part of most relationships, so if you’re not sexually compatible with your partner, it’s probably going to crash and burn eventually.
Luckily it is something that with enough time and practice, can start to become a lot smoother, slicker and more pleasurable, as both partners become more in tune with each other’s bodies.
And while our society might like to paint this narrative of the sex-craved guy who is willing to get sex wherever he can, men, just like women, also have many things that curb their pleasure in the bedroom.
So without further ado, here are 13 things women do in bed that drive guys crazy (and not in a good way).
1. Being deadly silent
“There’s nothing more awkward than having sex with a girl when the only noise you hear is the squeak of the bed. If what I’m doing to you feels good, make some noise!”
2. Neglecting the balls
“Don’t neglect them. Fondle them, massage them, give them a good pull when deep-throating. We like it, so don’t be shy.”
3. Giving rough handjobs
“I have no idea why some women think we want our junk pulled off during a handjob. There’s got to be a rhythm to it. Also, please don’t be shy to spit into your hand occasionally while you’re doing it.”
4. Assuming his erogenous zones are the same
“I hooked up with a girl who loved having her nipples played with. Eventually, we got to sex, and when I told her I was about to finish, she reached up and started ferociously pinching and twisting my nipples. I haven’t spoken to her since, and I’d be lying if I said this had nothing to do with it.”
5. Never being the one to initiate
“I’m 33 and still don’t ever really know how soon is too soon to initiate sex with a girl since everyone is different. But I do know that having her let me know she’s ready by taking her clothes off is the sexiest thing ever.”
6. Not vocalizing what you really want
“Women know what they like and don’t like, but a lot of them don’t really verbalize it. We both have the same goal: to get to the promised land. But I can’t get you there without a bit of a roadmap. You’re an expert on your own body, so if I need to do something to make this night a good one, please let me know!”
7. Trying a bit of butt play without asking first
“Butt play without discussion might get you accidentally mule kicked.”
8. Using teeth during oral
“Sure this has been said before, but seriously, be aware of whether or not your teeth are involved when you’re giving head. It hurts like a bitch.”
9. Faking an orgasm
“Men do not want a woman to fake an orgasm. We can take the honest criticism. It will only help us get better.”
10. Leaving all the work to the man
“Sex is a two-person event, and both people should be willing and excited to participate. There’s no fun in doing all the work while the other person just lays there. Switch positions and get in on the fun — it’s a team sport!”
11. Not starting slow when giving head
“Recently this girl gave me a blowjob and it was great… except it started with all these fast wrist motions, and lots of lip and tongue action right away. When you’re giving head, ease into it. This isn’t a contest. Get comfortable and let it build.”
12. Being overly self-conscious about your body
“You’d be surprised at how many women won’t accept things like oral because of their own body issues. If I want to do something special for you, let me. Don’t keep thinking, ‘OMG does he think I’m attractive?!’ Because of course, I do!”
13. Intentionally giving hickeys
“I can’t believe I’m saying this, but ladies, please don’t try to intentionally mark us. The last girl I dated did this all the time when we were having sex and I don’t understand why she thought it was hot. If anything it makes you look insecure. Do you really need to leave your mark to make sure everyone knows I’m off the market? No thanks.”
So there you have it: 13 things that are a total turn off for men during sex. Of course, every guy is different and they all have their own standards when it comes to getting down and dirty. But as a general rule, these points seem to ring true for a lot of men.