Confidence is something that defines our personalities. Too much of it and we can come across as intense and egotistical. Too little and we get labeled introverts with not much hope of getting a partner or succeeding in day-to-day life. Cliched observations, admittedly, but ones that seem to strike a chord with a growing number of people on both sides of the spectrum.
So what is the perfect medium of confidence? Is there a correct way to act? Probably not. But as these hacks show, the best attributes in life are usually those that come in moderation; with confidence being one of them.
Here are 8 life hacks that can be used daily to promote your inner-belief and hopefully send you into a blissful state of self-assured contentment.
1. Guard bad thoughts
Every day new thoughts enter our mind. What shirt looks better on me? Do I look tired? Am I turning into my father? Yes, quite trivial thoughts. But on some occasions, they can be more severe; and that’s when the real test comes into play. For instance, if you finished third in a swimming race, you might question your ability as a swimmer. Or, if you made a few mistakes on your College assignment, you could wonder if you’re smart enough. These are simple yet destructive thought patterns that can manifest into crippling confidence. So nip them in the bud and be sure always to tell yourself that you can be whoever you want to be providing you work hard.
2. Stand tall
How often do we slouch? A lot, probably. We’re so used to only looking down at our phones and sinking into our chairs after a long day’s work that we forget the importance our body language, and posture can give off to others. So Puff your chest out a little and stand tall and don’t forget to smile. You can apply this to almost any situation; be it a date, a job interview or even just a trip to the in-laws. What matters is that you’re demonstrating pride in who you are.
3. Walk into a room like everyone’s your friend
Without coming across a douche, this hack, done correctly, is bound to turn heads. Why? Because the ability to make someone feel at ease is appreciated by everyone. If you can walk into an area of people without hesitation and with an unassuming yet pleasant aura people will want to be around you..
4. Keep the juices flowing
Confidence is an attribute that requires continual practice – which isn’t always easy when you’re run ragged from life’s various dramas. That’s why it’s important to stay motivated and in the zone. Listening to music, for instance, can help you stay atop of things and even prepare you for nerve-wracking occasions.
5. Be around inspiring people
In most cases, confidence is usually derived from being around others who tell you you can achieve anything and that you are a great person. Of course, confidence has to come from within, but it can he boosted in the initial phases by loving and kind people. Surround yourself with negative and rude people, however, and their words can shatter your confidence. If that’s the case, then ditch them.
Not only do the endorphins get a much-welcomed boost from a workout, but you also reap a whole host of physical transformations.
Admittedly, looking good and feeling good can be misconstrued as shallow. After all, one’s appearance shouldn’t directly affect self-esteem, but it certainly enhances it. So aim to make the gym a second home and you’ll soon discover what all the fuss is about.
7. Don’t feel shy and embarrassed when someone compliments you
It’s almost innate in Western cultures to feel shy and even embarrassed when a compliment comes their way. In some cases, people are far more adept at taking insults. And that’s because we’re so used to questioning worth and coming across as priggish that we find it easier to carry ourselves in a more self-defeating manner. So when someone genuinely likes your outfit or applauds your latest piece of writing, say thank you, and smile rather than blush!
8. Less talk and more action
Finally, and perhaps most importantly, the best confidence comes from within ones own want to improve. Once you’ve figured out what that is- whether that be writing a novel, landing your dream job, traveling the world, etc- you can go about making that dream a reality.
Doing this is, of course, a risk, and it’s certainly easier to close yourself off to rejection by simply doing nothing. But, in time, and by making room for your goals and aspirations, you are inadvertently building up your confidence by merely having a purpose. So many people no little about themselves or where they want to go, and their insecurities manifest as a result. So don’t let that happen to you. Get things done, and create something special.