Many will tell you that success is subjective, and what makes one person happy won’t necessarily please everyone. After all, success isn’t, as many still believe, defined by monetary achievements. It encompasses a broad range of human emotions that no amount of money can buy.
However, the reasons behind failure are more straightforward. Everyone goes through failure, but few learn from it and build a foundation on which to improve.
Here, we go through 10 common reasons why many people will never succeed and reach their potential.
1. Time is an alien concept to them
How many times has the human race said, “I’ll do it tomorrow”? Probably a lot, which isn’t only sad, but also scary. Just think about the implications of what that means. Simply put, we are giving ourselves less and less of a chance in life by delaying our goals and putting off things that could be done in the present. For all you know, you could be run over by a car tomorrow. Or someone in another area of the world might be working on that same groundbreaking piece of code you’ve thought up but just been too lazy to put into practice. Time stops for no one. Not even those at their death beds wishing they could have done more. Don’t let that be you.
2. They are fatalistic
While being an eternal optimist can grind the gears of others, that’s because they’re jealous of their outlook on life. Being a pessimist, on the other hand, requires little effort. All you have to do is tell yourself you’re no good and that taking a risk and doing something isn’t worth it as it probably won’t lead to anything. Granted, they will save themselves from the likelihood of failure, but by doing that, they’re also depriving themselves of their wildest dreams.
3. They fear failure
While a popular past president once said, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself,” many have since fallen privy to the exact word Franklin.D. Roosevelt warned us of. Admittedly, there’s nothing wrong with failure. The best athletes, CEO’s, rock stars, politicians and academics all went through phases in their lives where their initial attempts weren’t good enough. But they didn’t let that stop them. In fact, not only did they give their dreams a shot, but they also kept going- even after their initial setbacks. Those who let their fears get in the way of their goals have- by no fault but their own- already failed. Remember: you’re only a failure once you stop trying.
4. They love making excuses
Human beings are busy people. Most of us work long hours, and when we get home, the last thing we want to do is do more work. But what if ‘more work’ involved doing something that could maybe lead you on to bigger and better things in the future? Yet few are willing to take the risk and put their time and resources into making that dream happen. Netflix, after all, is the far easier option.
5. They often have low-self esteem
A lack of self-worth and respect can lead many on a thankless quest of self-discovery that usually ends in disappointment. To avoid such a common pitfall learn to be content with your strengths and limitations and who you are as a person. That way, you’ll be more confident in making a dream come true.
6. They refuse to entertain their faults
Ignorance and an inability to see past your perceived greatness can lead many on a road to ruin. But if you want to be the best- in whatever field- you have to open yourself up to people’s opinions. It may not always be what you want to hear, but if taken on board, they can help you improve. Those who hear only what they want to hear are usually those who stay idle and content with what they already have.
7. They procrastinate
Let’s be honest: most of us procrastinate. If you don’t, then kudos- you must be some intergalactic robot from outer space where Netflix isn’t a computer streaming service but a planet full of James Joyce enthusiasts. Yes, moderation is key when it comes to using apps and social media sites. Successful people realise this and often view Netflix shows and YouTube videos as incentives, and things to look forward to once they’ve completed certain tasks.
Individuals who don’t experience success are likely those tweeting about the Kardashians or watching re-runs of Parks and Recreation (Aziz Ansari is fantastic, but like all good things, is also best served in moderation) without any intention of doing anything else.
8. They pick themselves to pieces without putting themselves back together
We are our own worst enemy. If we get a promotion at work, it’s usually because of luck and not our hard work and talent. When we wake up, we wonder if we are capable of achieving our dreams because it is likely we are nowhere near talented enough. Well, if you let those feelings cloud your motivation, then you’ll remain in a perpetual state of brokenness. It’s okay to analyse yourself and tear yourself to pieces- Just be sure to repair yourself after.
9. They don’t take action
The American sportswear giant Nike has one of the most recognisable slogans in the world. ‘Just do it’ is a simple yet apt message. If you don’t do anything, then you’ll never get anything done; it’s that simple. People who fall short of their dreams spend so much time putting things off that they allow other things to get in the way, giving themselves more of an excuse to avoid the only task that matters; action.
10. They never step outside their comfort zone
Comfort zones are there for our safety but after a while, everyone needs to fly from the nest. Of course, people with anxiety problems or acute shyness find it harder than others, but by attempting something special, it’s inevitable you will have to do things you aren’t always used to. It could be pitching your business idea to angel investors. Or reading your novel to potential customers. It may even be as simple as gearing yourself up for a date. Whatever it is, embrace the thrill and excitement of it all. Those who don’t often miss out on a plethora of experiences and opportunities that could have given them so much more.