There’s no natural remedy for sadness. Neither is there one for stress or anger. No, more often than not, these are all human emotions that aren’t easy to process and whether your child is going through a tough time at school or your health is dwindling, life can sometimes seem like nothing other than black painted canvas.
What’s important to remember, however, is how powerful the mind is. It can change our thought process and make us see the world in an entirely different light to that of someone else. With these eight tips, we at Loopfy want to show you that while anything can happen in life, anything can also occur in the mind.
Here are six ways you can train the mind to help you get through the toughest moments in life.
1. Think about a moment in your life that made you giddy with joy
While living in the past is often ill-advised, allowing yourself to slip back to a sweet moment can sometimes be a healthy mental exercise. Doing so shows us that we have experienced an array of positive emotions that we can still experience again.
2. Look around the room and try and find the beauty in something
It can be anything. The faded colour of the curtains. The photos of your mother in the corner of your room. The mind can offer us so much more if we go against from the preconceived idea of happiness- namely; wealth, beauty, and fame.
3. Never imagine the worst
When we are feeling weak, it’s almost innate in us as human beings to imagine the worst-case scenario. What if he dies? Or I die? Or everyone makes fun of me? It can be horrific, and lead some people into a state of constant anxiety.
But they’re just thoughts! They are nightmares that have escaped our dreams and entered our everyday process of reflection. So look around and tell yourself nothing has happened. Dark thoughts may be visual, but mostly, they are never physical.
4. Walk in a quiet area of town and analyse nature
They all do it. Tech wizards. CEOs. Artists. Why? Because peaceful and relaxing moments offer pause and moments of reflection amidst Earth’s wonders.
The birds twitter in the trees. The sun strokes your cheek. The rain seeps into your skin. Whatever you see, hear or feel, it’s important to remember you’re alive. You’re living and feeling everything that makes mortal life so remarkable and extraordinary.
5. Imagine your life without the things you love
Being grateful for what you have, as opposed to what you don’t is a saying we all know well. But it’s only when you find yourself in a position where things aren’t going to plan that you reflect on such meanings.
If you have a partner and/or children, then cherish them. Tell them how much you love them. Taking Anyone/anything for granted should be seen as a sin. Once you realise that, you can revolutionise your happiness. Sometimes, you have to go through hardship to truly experience joy.
6. Remain pragmatic
Like with anything problematic, it’s always best if you approach the situation with a calm and collected mind. Assess the possible costs and ask yourself what can be done to overcome them? Are the bills out-of-hand? If so, what needs to be done to lower costs. Maybe it’s your health. Have you just been diagnosed with a major illness? If so, what did they say?
These are all scenarios that can be devastatingly difficult to take in- some more so than others- and require a lot of patience and reflection. But, once the dust has settled, you’ll find remaining calm and positive can sometimes serve far more of a benefit than any released rage or anger ever could.
7. Think of a dream or goal
Motivation is a core ingredient to leading a happy and fulfilled life. It’s what keeps us striving for better prospects, whatever they may be.
If you don’t have any goals or dreams, then find one. It doesn’t have to involve becoming president or being the youngest astronaut in space. But whatever it is, identify and work towards it. The Brazilian author Paulo Cohelo’s international bestseller ‘The Alchemist’ is a must-read book for those unsure of where they’re heading. As he writes, it’s the beauty of working towards a dream that makes life more tolerable. “When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better, too,” he writes.
8. Accept that most things are out of your control
Being unable to monitor certain aspects of your life can drive you mad. But, it shouldn’t do. If anything, you should take consolation in knowing that certain things in life are not of your making. Instead, it’s important to remember the things you can control, and concentrate on those issues. Family, relationships, professional issues- these are parts of life that require different approaches. Adapt, and you’ll find that certain things simply aren’t worth worrying over.